Tuesday, September 21

City Life !!!

Its not even a month here in the city of gardens and city of lakes as they call it , bangalore or bengaluru....

I really just don't know what to write or where to start...
i am still just dazed or am just so dizzy with the pace here i am not yet sure..

every morning i also try to start in the same pace as others, but somehow i feel lost by the mid of the day..

Every one here is in a hurry..
Hurried to get up in the morning..
To reach office in a hurry...
The bus cars bikes all r in a hurry....
hurry to avoid traffic...
hurry to reach someplace ...
hurry while walking not to miss the first bus that comes....
people reach office in a hurry... to start their work ..
then they work in a hurry.. to finish off the day's work..
then they leave in a hurry to reach home early ...
then they reach home, have dinner in a hurry to call it a day to start one more hurried day...

in all this thing... i keep on wondering...
why and what this hurry is all about...

work to rise up the ladder faster, own a bigger better flat, a softer and fluffier bed, a better education for kids, drive a even spacious and longer car....

on the contrary , few things here are never in a hurry..
there is no hurry for the clouds to rain... they just remain there for days before they rain.
the wind is not in a hurry .... to blow away the clouds to help the sun peek once in a while at people and places below...
the weather is not in a hurry to pass ... it just loves to be the spring that everyone here admires so much

in all this hurry-burry of my life which i don't know if i am also getting used to or still has time to get used to....
but i am wondering ...is life only this much to worry about, to hurry about !!!

what about the thing called life...
when did we enjoy that...

people boast about the beautiful weather here... but when do u enjoy it in the whole day i feel like asking... but never did as i am experiencing the answer everyday...no one has the time to do so...
when did u had the chance to sit quietly in ur apartment to enjoy a nice cup of tea with ur flatmate / spouse ...
when did u enjoy riding ur bigger better car and not just worried about getting hit by a fellow next to you...
when did u create the bond with ur colleague and not just worked and hurried back home....

all in this busy life everyone has just one next-to-do-thing on their mind .....
is everyone here so sure of their Destinations , do they know what they want in life, that the path does not really matter to them, only it matters how u reach there faster..

i am still asking the question... what about people like me ... who like to experience the path which leads you to your destination, after all memories are made on the way also not jsut at the destination ...

Tuesday, August 17

A evening during Monsoons !!!

A black sky, heavy rains , knee deep water on roads thats how the evening begins....
Water splattering from all sides on the car's windows, laptop bags in our laps and planning a lazy evening ....

Early escape from the office.....
3 old frns and one new me ...

The nearest chocolate room, a table at the smoker's zone , and the smoke making way to the non smokers always .....

A sizzling chocolate brownie and 4 spoons digging into it.....
For a change the smoke was welcoming and intoxicating and not injurious to health :) ...

A lazy chat, more stories to tell, good old times to recollect, all truth's no dare, gobbling away the sandwiches and wraps....

More smokes , some photographs , leg pulling , match making and lots of laughs...

Carefree attitudes, no drama, more round of tea and cappuccino......

Way back home, a bad traffic jam, loud music and hopes for more good times...

A perfect evening during monsoons (just ignore the jam)

Monday, August 9

Rewind and Play !!!

There are few days in everyone's life which they want to Rewind and Play all over again and do not feel like making any changes to it....

One b'ful day, one i10, 5 old frns, a long drive on the highway, a dhaba, a lazy late lunch, back home for a kadak adrak ki chai, one animation movie - funny and good, a dinner together....

Kodak moments....

Just the real u and 12 hrs of fun unlimited, no grudges no serious chats, old memories and lots of laughs......

One of my 'Rewind and Play' days.....

Friday, July 30

A Gals Thing !!!

If you are a gal....It is just the thing you can relate to....

Its not that i am feminist...Ohh okk...I am a Big time Feminist...

its not like that i dont adore my boy-friends (friends who are boys)....
But
I feel that every gal deserves to have a good bunch of girl-friends (friends who are gals), and should always have them in her life...

After a long time i also felt that again...
And i am writing this as i am getting nostalic about my college time memories and am missing my good old flatmates....

I just had my lunch today with a gals gang... and believe me i just loved it....

You might have seen the four gals in the "Sex-And-The-City" and might have wondered what the hell(guys' reaction) or ohh yes thats awesome(if you are a gal)...

Its just so cool at times when you can become emotional and still not feel stupid....
When you can laugh at almost everything and then at nothings.....
Someone just understands you why you are sad when you nail-paint got damaged just slightly at the corner....
or why not every shoe goes well with every dress...

It feels relaxing when you can hug someone tightly and they do not feel bad or embarassed or attracted to you.....
Where you can discuss movies, designs, styles and also sports and not just sports...
When having a crush on a cute guy is openly admitted and you are not judged of your character.....

I can discuss my PMS days without a 'jhijhak' and i know you would understand it...
i can do some bitching , and know you wont be judgemental at all.....
From the 'pati-dev ke jhagde se', 'bacchon ki nappy' tak.. i know your are only ones who would empathaise with me ....

A gal can have family, relatives, siblings, spouse/ boyfriends, colleagues, friends but her life is incomplete without a gals gang...

This is dedicated to all my girl-friends....
i love you gals and i miss you when you are away....

Friday, May 21

My Ace-Idiot !!!

We all watched the movie 3 idiots , we all liked it, we all could related it to our lives, we all could remember atleast one teacher in our lives who taught us to ‘Ratofy’ (memorise , learn by heart) whatever notes he used to give ,we atleast could remember one student who was jealous enough and greedy enough to score the top position like Chatur in the movie, and we could remember atleast one person like amir khan’s character in the movie.

After the movie 3 idiots , students don’t feel ashamed of being called an idiot by their teachers, rather they feel proud…such is the influence of bolloywood….
But for me the movie 3 idiots and amir khan’s dialouges were more or less like a action reply, a review telecast of a live match….

I also take the liberty of getting influenced by the religion called Bollywood and use the term ‘Idiot’ in the way its now redefined and m proud to tell for me the Ace-idiot is not Amir in the movie but its my Father in my life……

My father might not have used the ‘Cool’ language but the lessons taught are always the same….

He always used to tell me and my sis Life will be good if you think its good because then you get the courage to fight the bad times to make it good …. (Aaall is Well)
He always used to tell “ you should race for two things in life
1. to be a good person in life
2. to gain knowledge “
Whenever I used to go to the cloud 9 for getting a 48 of 50 and topping an exam, he always used to tell “don’t think you topped your test exam in your class and don’t boast your ego, because your race should never be to be the topper. Always remember you are still behind the 100%. Compete with the 100% and not with your fellow students ,that would bring you success . Don’t be satisfied with anything less than that and you would know its not so easy to defeat the 100% and that would always keep you grounded”
(Marks ke liye maat padho Kuch sikhne ke liye padho Safalta Jhak marke tumhare piche aaegi)

Tuesday, May 4

Sounds !!!

There are certain sounds which always lifts your mood , which always gives kicks for more and more and you cant just go bored hearing it ....

The sound of cuckoo singing on a very hot day
The sound of bangles of a newly wedded, ghoonghat clad bride for her man
The sound of music from a distance
The sound of the first word uttered by a baby
The sound of rain in a desert
The sound of karchi on kadai (ladle on vessel) when someone is affectionately making food for you
The sound of aarti performed during a puja
The sound of anklets heard behind the door when after a hectic day you listen your mom approaching the door to open if for you with a big broad smile
The sound of the voice of your beloved
The sound of sea
The sound of a young river flowing through the rocky terrain
The sound of laughter of young kids
The sound of silence while watching the star studded sky

Dear reader,
These are few things which i can keep listening to for all the while....
post me a comment if else anything strikes you which is not on this list.... will get the list running

Monday, February 22

Quater Life Crisis - a new dimension

Recently i happened to attend one of my friends wedding.
and as i stayed back at her place for a day during the wedding i got an oppurtunity to interact with many of her friends and relatives....

at a wedding u meet all kinds of people,toothless infants to toothless oldies , happening careless youngsters to quadra-generians and newly weds to brand new mothers ....all of them...

but something was different, i realised i dont fall into any of the categories... and there you are no-one if you are not one of the 6...


when suddenly it strikes you that you have come ahead of a glorious past and dont have the charm left to woo a college going one or rather you are really old for them and you have not yet stepped into the 'oh my husband and inlaw's family' kind of discussions also ...

from both sides you are kind of equidistant , well separated by wide channels and dont have the license to take the bridge to the other side....

and these are the places people see you with mercy, the young ones that you are still single and not dating anyone and the old ones that you are single and not yet married...

these are the places when you cant talk about your crushes, your qualification, you job life and your wonderful friends and flatmates... and then it is like 'i am speechless as i dont know any other topic to talk about this has been my life for some time now'....

this is when i realised what quater life crisis actually is... or what new discussions can we add to the quater life crisis problems and discussions...

and just then it dawns on you that quater life crisis has not left you untouched either.....

Friday, January 29

Techinque-ally sound !!!

When i was a kid i had a favorite painting which was a Ganesh Ji in a dancing pose....
i loved it ..adored it....
and one day when i joined my painting school ... i showed it to my teacher the way i used to show it to everyone... and he told nothing absolutely nothing....
and sometime later i knew why....
one day when he was teaching us postures and techniques related to posture ... he pointed out one simple thing in my painting the lack on balance in the dancing Ganesha.... and told that 'when i saw it i could just see the fault in it and hence could not comment anything about it'.....

and that day onwards whenever i saw that painting; instead of the beautiful colours of the background, instead of the efforts put in by the kid, instead of the perfect expressions of the dancing pose; i always saw the imperfection in it....
from that experience i had learnt that technique is good when u learn it and u go beyond imperfections, when u can undo the mistake ;but in this process u always loose the charm, the innocence of the first touch, the fresh look ......

after this incident i have always made it a point to make sure to complete anything at one go but to never look back into the flaws if i dont have the intention of destroying it completely after the flaw is identified......

Few days back my roomie's frn was here and we were having a light chat...
and then suddenly our discussion a direction which was towards art and when i showed him my wall painting he being a professional photographer understands the perspectives the techniques of painting asked a simple question where is the Horizon the painting....
and when i answered its immaterial you wont see the difference in the darkness he still insisted i at-least make him point where it lies....
and i very well understood where he is heading to and after my correct answer he will point out the mistake in the painting and i knew after that the fate for this painting would be the same as for my dancing Ganesha.....
and i answered him something which was wrong but in accordance to the painting.... he must have thought i am a stupid gal who does not understand techniques but he will never understand i am the gal who gives more importance to the efforts and the thoughts then being a perfectionist...

Education Vs Literacy !!!

Education is something more than literacy....
we must have come across many 'Padhe likhe Ganwar' in our life the Literates and the 'Anpadh samajhdar' the Educated ones....
so i just thought to jot few examples where i feel like kicking the Literates on the very delicate spots....

1. Breaking queues in billing counters (even during shopping) as if they r only ones in hurry.
2. talking rudely to senior citizens or making fun of them
3. behaving rudely in restaurants with waiters/ bartenders or with their maids at home or the chotu at the chai ka thela
4. When ppl take unnecessary printouts , sometime even dont care to print both sides.
5. Dont care to preserve water , electricity or any natural resource
6. Dont respect someone's personal space by being nosy or poky about matters
7. Run over traffic signals
8. Fear to be near HIV+ people
9. Think its rudeness to ask for a blood test during a arrange marriage
10. When think beauty is only skin deep
11. Behaving like a racist, When more importance is given to people with whiter skin colour
12. Dont respect women at home or outside
13. When people of other sex are nothing more than mere sex toys for them and keep a gaze as if u r stripping in front of them
14. Dont hold a door open for anyone even if they know someone is just behind them
15. When people dont behave sensibly towards people in a group by using a language not understood by all

Wednesday, January 13

Priorities !!!

priorities.....
this is a word which can sometimes solve a bunch of your problems but can sometimes create more...even sometimes ppl fight over matters related to priority...
maa ki priority ya biwi ki.....
office ki urgent meeting ki priority ya bacchon ke liye dinner ki......
saas ki baaton ki priority ya apni independence ki.......
but these are times when we have the decision in our hands.....
and there are times when we unknowingly might hurt someone because of these priorities...
we might priortise meeting a frn then staying with family....
we might priortise shopping with a new frn than going to doctor with the one for whom we had hurt our family some time back.....
we might give priority to the talks of one roomie than the other......
as i hav understood, priority is sometimes a decision made by mind based on requirements and sometimes its a decision taken by our heart based on our likings....
but i am yet ot figure out which one should you give more priority to decisions made by mind or heart......

Thursday, January 7

Ruhaniyat !!!

I just happened to attend the Ruhaniyat Hyderabad chapter on 2nd....
the sufi and mystic music festival brought many people under one roof..... be it the singers and musicians from across the country or the audience from the different paths and professions....

i might be a music deaf person... i might not know the raagas , talas....
i can make out the ones, just the right notes that touch your soul....
and it was such a evening....

no words are ever required to describe Love and it could be well explained by the all whos hearts and souls danced to the melodies of the Sufiana kalams and the kawwalis.....

open your soul to the love of the eternal and enjoy the harmony, the frequency to which your heart resonates the maximum.... this is what Ruhaniyat is for me.....

01-01-10

Its new year!!! happy new year 2010 to all of my readers......


i never thought it would be such a great start with a wonderful movie with friends about frienship and the true celebration of frienship at the bare minimum expense , the TV playing some songs in the bg and with a home made cake while we welcomed the year 2010 with chocolaty smiles.....