Saturday, August 25

The Perfect One !!!

Some time back i had a FB status ' Kisi mahaan insaan ne kaha hai --  "Kabhi Kabhi Imperfect chiz Perfect chiz se jyada acchi lagti hai" '

All our life we all have done a lot of things , education , job, friends , fun .... but in all these as humans we have always felt the need of a companion, someone who is exclusive for us.... 

Everyone is waiting for their Ms or Mr Perfect ...
Lot of my friends are now married or in a relationship , may be they got theirs Perfect one or may be not...

In this process a lot of people have asked me the question, what would i like to see in my Mr Perfect , what would be the qualities i would like in him...

I have tried a lot to think about the must have, good to have,must not have in him...... but i have realized one thing in this process....... 

I am not a perfect person, and no other person is perfect, 
So , if any guy is not a perfect person for me than obviously i will never be a perfect person for him also.... 
So two imperfect people .... how can they ever have a perfect life , how can they be happy and live a happily ever after life....

Truth is..... the happily ever after is always true in a perfect setting of a fairy tale world, but in this real and imperfect world we strive every day very hard to have a perfect life .....

So how to know who the Perfect person is ?

i would say the question is wrong ...... its not about the Perfect Person , its about the Imperfect Person who is just Right for you and only you ......

So for all the people who want to know what i want ..... i dont have the bullet point answer for them yet... and i dont think i will ever have it ... but one answer i have for myself.... 

The key to happy life not to find the Mr Perfect or crying about not finding Mr Perfect .... 
Adaptability and Change are the key of existence... and everyone changes in life....  

And the answer per me for a happy life with your better half is your desire to put efforts....

Its all about the effort we put in changing for a person or in making a person understand our point of view...

And till we enjoy, really enjoy and see the fun in the efforts we put for the other person , in changing our selves or in understanding them or in making them understand us ..... we can guarantee a happy life ...

So , its not about finding the Perfect one for me, but its finding the flawed one with whom i would love to change for a better life ... where both can loose some individuality and make a common identity




Winning !!!

Recently in my office we had a event.... it was fun frolic and freedom...set on the backdrop of Independence Day celebration we could see a lot of enthusciastic participants for a lot of competetions that we organized....

There were competitions targetting all kind of audiences in office.... the very energetic , very enthusciastic types.. the very sportive ones... the one good at certain games... the ones who are good at acting / singing and also for the ones who are good at jugaad ....

But something else i could see in all these events....
The main intention of these games and wide range we offered on the plate was for a sole reason of  "ice-breaking" ...
so that people know each other, the work environment improves and people get comfortable working in this environment.....

I was part of the organizing team as well as an active participant in the activities / games ..
As we had this fun-filled week going on, we had a lot Masti , i got to know a lot of people and lot of people got to know me....
The event was definitely successful.....

But during these fun games one more side of people came out....

Everyone wanted to win, everyone wanted to get a prize...
You would ask me , "So whats wrong ? " There is nothing wrong in winning or having the thoughts and aspiration to win... after all a healthy competition brings out the best in us...
But winning is required when there is a competition ... when we were just having events and not competition how does it matter who wins...
People did not just participate for fun, they participated asking what would they get if they win....

When someone wins there is someone who is losing,
but this was not at all our intention , we never intended to declare on person as winner and the others as losers......
Cant we judge which are Competitions and which are just Activities.... 

If these grown ups behave like this what would they be able to teach the future generation...

Monday, August 20

Cocktail !!!

I very recently happened to watch the newest Bollywood flick "Cocktail" ....
And the story-line invariably reminded me of few more movies....  like the SRK - Kajol - Rani Superhit "Kuch Kuch Hota Hai" or the Hrithik- Rani- Kareena flick "Mujhse Dosti Karoge"

Every time i watch such a movie a single thought keeps coming to my mind.... Why.... What....

Why... Why the hell a best friend cannot be your girlfriend...
What...What do you get being such Hypocrites...

A Gal is the best buddy to a Guy coz she is cool , bindaas , happy-go-lucky, easy to gel with kind of a person... the kind of person whom you can share everything that comes to your mind and everything that is close to your heart.....
But ... the same gal cannot ever be the girl-friend.... the girl-friend is always the more classy one , the more beautiful one, the one person who you have not known properly but you can feel the guitar playing in the back ground......

Why is this , What is this ?

Suddenly everything that mattered in your friend is useless and you need someone who would be approved by your mother....

Suddenly the bindaas attitude cannot be tolerated anymore....

A carefree , jhalli  , who knows you in a much better way has to make way for a sassy girl....
Why is that the same characters what made the gal and the boy the best of friends now are the biggest hindarances from becoming of their bf and gf...

Why is that tom-boyish attitude which is so appreciated in frnship now so hated when the same person proposes as a Beau .....